Concerning Matters of the Luftmensch Heart

When one is young and vibrant, love seems so confused. There are so many questions; so many possibilities for the future; everything is so uncertain. When does one know when one finds one's true love? When does one know who the "right" one is? It is such a trivial subject, and I am such a luftmensch to bring it up; but what if you were just going along in your life, and all of a sudden, someone walks in and ruins it all? Now your life is almost centered around this person and you try to shove it off. Surprisingly, very surprisingly, you keep finding things that fit perfectly into your ideal. Random things- things like how he talks and certain words he uses in his speaking to you, and maybe who his favorite composer is. Then things like his hobbies and interests; and most importantly, his values! How he treats people, how he just loves everyone. He's so good, better than you, and he actually likes the way you do things. And then, to be entirely superficial, he's very attractive; kind of like the cherry on top. He really seems perfect. Perfect, except for only one thing- the most vital thing- the aspect that makes you wonder: "Why is it, that he doesn't have this???" because it fits perfectly with everything else! It's like a puzzle piece that completes the picture exactly- same colors, shape, size...all that is wrong is the fact that there is one peg that doesn't match the hole. How can that even work??? How is that possible??? And it is simply vital, so you don't even know what to do about it. And nothing, I repeat, nothing can happen if this aspect is missing!
It is all very vexing, of course, but there is more. There aren't very many chances to talk to him, so the fact that you really, really want to get to know him better happens to become the seldom and precious moments that you long for every minute of everyday. Anticipation is so ridiculously hard to endure.
SO, how does one know if one has found the "right" one yet? I have no idea, because it always seems like the "right" one at the moment, and yet, when you are so sure about it, the whole world goes topsy turvy again.